How to tackle your fear

Sprint as fast as you can. Don’t think, just do. Get low, get dirty, get angry and get motivated.

So many people that I get to know eventually find out that I did a marathon. The response that I always hear in some form is “oh my god, I can’t believe you did one!! I have always wanted to do one but I can’t.”

I am telling you that you can. If you look in the record books, there is a guy who was 400+ pounds that did in over eight hours.

Here are the steps:

Challenge yourself
Sign up
Pay for it
Show up
Never give up
Then don’t stop talking about it after you completed your goal because it was ONE of the best moments in your life.

Don’t fear the fear. If you want that job promotion or a new girlfriend or a house of your dreams. Go after it, don’t defeat yourself before it happens and keep trying.

Talent isn’t everything, it is your heart and effort that is.

Tackle that fear,

Bryan

Mental Toughness, Motivation and Day 5 of eating CLEAN

My parent's pantry!

It is day five of eating clean. What a roller coaster ride! I can’t believe how hard it has been! The funny thing is all I had to do was eliminate sugars – which I found to be really hard by the way since I love my coffee with about four sugar packets and a quarter cup of cream in the morning. I had to eliminate Peanut butter as well, whelp! This guy here eats about a jar a week. It has been a key ingredient of my diet for my whole life, I believe in the sixth grade I was up to three peanut butter and jelly sandwiches a day; Thanks Mom! I also had to eliminate Alcohol, and grains from my diet as well. While my diet has been tough, I am already noticing the difference. I have dropped about three pounds and I am starting to notice that my love handles are starting to shrink. I really didn’t want to post that but I made it a goal to be more truthful this year. What I am noticing during this key five day period that this diet has been a case of mental toughness and boy, have I grown from the past year and half with my mental toughness due to my weight loss, Spartan races, marathons and doing CrossFit. I absolutely love food – I was taught to eat everything off of my plate for dinner before I could do anything and if I didn’t, I got a scolding from Dad and occasionally my lovely crazy grandmother. It was tough growing up from a family where food is certainly a way of expressing love and on top of that, food was not to be wasted! On top of that I dated an Italian girl for about seven years and yes we ate a lot of pasta, so not having it right now on top of exercising almost twice a day has been hard! I also think I have a relationship with food, I think I can acknowledge that and I think a lot of other people who are heavier can attest to that as well!

So back to mental toughness and motivation. It is key that I have a goal and that goal is eating clean for thirty days which will clean my system out of all of the garbage that I have been eating. The motivation that I have is my body is going to look and feel better after the thirty days – hopefully! The diet is based on getting rid of inflammation which in my case, I have a lot of that around my stomach area! Ha-Ha So in terms of mental toughness, when I am coming against forces like my family wanting to order pizza last night because that’s what we do on Friday nights, I suggested to my mom that I have to eat clean and to please let me take her fifty dollars that she would have to spend on pizza and let me cook something healthy! She said yes!  Especially since she doesn’t have to cook which after cooking for five boys for the past twenty years, you can see why! I also saved her about thirty bucks since dinner was around 29 dollars, another plus! On my first day, I turned down a beer from a good friend after helping them with their water heater and if you know me, I NEVER turn down a good beer.

The biggest animal is not eating clean for thirty days but it is fighting yourself, your mind against the temptations that exist. It is easy to say oh well, I can have this, it is just one but what you are really doing is defeating yourself, before you know it, you will be saying well I already had one, what’s one more going to hurt and before you know it, you ate a whole box of cookies or a whole jar of peanut butter! I came home to my parent’s house this weekend due to a business meeting out in West Chester and there was my favorite cake on the table called a babka (a sweet yeast cake) and there are cookies still left over from Christmas! I have yet to touch them and I don’t plan on it. It will be much safer when I get to my bachelor pad that has barely any food in it but for now, I credit CrossFit and all of the races that I have done for improving my mental fitness. Without my mental fitness improving race after race or workout after workout, I wouldn’t be this good right now. Mental fitness is hard to come by and I have taken a lot of hits along the way.  I gave up playing college baseball way too early because I didn’t feel appreciated. I blew up on my diet after college because I was focused on taking care of someone else besides me. It is easy to say yes to the desert placed on your table at family dinners. It is easy to say yes to a beer with a friend because of the instant gratification that happens because of it. Our society is certainly struggling with that concept today with statistics that show more than half of Americans are obese and more than half of marriages end up in divorce. Say yes to something that is hard andit will change your life in the LONG run.

If I were an employer, I would immediately hire me or anybody else that has done races or does CrossFit because it takes an incredible amount of mental strength to complete those and trust me, you want someone that is not going to give up before the work even starts. We live in a world full of anxiety where people are scared to take chances before even taking the first step. Once you beat the negative voice that is talking in your head, everything else suddenly becomes easy! Tell your mind that you are going to accomplish something and the rest will follow. It is important to have goals because having goals will encourage you to stay motivated. Have rewards as well! I am hoping to look better than ever after this thirty days and hopefully if I do, I can implement it into my lifestyle and then have occasional cheat days to treat myself.

Take necessary actions to build up your mental toughness, it will make you stronger as individual and it will attract others around you that are the same which will enable you to be better off for it.  Once you achieve something relatively small, then all of sudden, a domino effect of more positive things keep happening in your life.

Work on your mental toughness by achieving one goal today. Tomorrow, when you wake up work on achieving another goal before the end of the day. Make it a habit.

Well time for me to do my workout of the day, I am going to run a mile as fast as I can which I am aiming for under seven minutes. Not bad for a guy who could barely finish one a year and a half ago.

Have a great weekend and look for my next blog post next weekend where I am going to write about being out of my comfort zone at my first CrossFit competition!

Until next time,

BA

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Top Ten Things I want to achieve by 37

Top Ten Things I want to achieve by 37

By: Bryan Adamson Owner of Motivate2Advance

“Your goals need to stretch you, push you to go farther & faster than you ever thought possible.”

-Darren Hardy

“All successful people men and women are big dreamers. They imagine what their future could be, ideal in every respect, and then they work every day toward their distant vision, that goal or purpose.”

– Brian Tracy: is a self-help author and motivational speaker

Thanks to a blog written by Jason Konopinski and to a book I recently read, “What do you want to do before you die?” The book is based on the MTV Show called “The Buried Life.” I originally wrote this essay to talk about things that I want to do before I die but as I was writing this, I realized that all of the things that I describing, to myself and to you, my audience what I would like to do are things I want to accomplish before I am forty. I have always liked setting goals for myself, even the ones that I crashed and burned on. I am still disappointed that my 83 mile per hour fastball and turtle speed didn’t make it to professional baseball but if I didn’t make this my goal at one point in my life, there was probably no chance that I would have even gone to college. Playing college baseball was the sole reason alone as to why I wanted to go and in doing so, the situation completely changed my life. I met wonderful people and experienced awesome life events, even the ones that I don’t remember. My only wish that I would like to make besides you reading this and helping me is that you take the time to write your own list as well. Some of the items on this list are pretty far out there; most of them are certainly attainable if I put my mind to it. I am taking the first step by writing them down and sharing it with you.

Get into a top five MBA school -Harvard is my top choice, you may be asking why I want to attempt to do this? Well, I love to learn and unfortunately even given my slew of accomplishments, I feel that I still don’t get the respect for the success I have created and I am always looking to improve my current self. I think going to Harvard when a lot of people didn’t expect me to go to college would be a great accomplishment in my life.

Change the way management is done -especially on the bigger company scale (Become the first CMO in a company) There is not enough teaching; mentoring and they often have too many other responsibilities like managing their own book of business. Being in the financial advising field, I have seen every young person fail, especially myself. Even though I am with the largest financial service company in the nation and I have good training, I don’t have great training. There should be a CMO – Chief Mentor office, in all companies and they should focus solely upon improving the lives of their cherished co-workers and motivating them to be the best. Athletics teams are the strongest competitors but they still have coaches. We don’t have coaches in the business world and I find that a sad realization. Every manager that is out there today has to work on their own book of business or their own sales.

Become a leading consultant in the field of motivational coaching and management and becoming a coveted speaker in the motivational field. This has to deal with a lot in wanting to inspire others to be great, to be better than the status quo. During my childhood years, my parents and I were told that I won’t be able to go to regular school, I won’t be able to go to college, I won’t be able to work and that I will be staying at my parent’s house for the rest of my life living on Government benefits. There are so many of us that come from bad living environments and are expected to not be successful, to live in the bubble of failure. I want to go around and share my story, to show people that you can do what you want, along as you put your mind to it. Write/publish a book – Sharing my story would be great. I know that by people reading it, it will help change their lives. I also would like to write a self-help, inspirational book with the help of others. My main theme would be how to overcome obstacles we can see and how to overcome obstacles that we can’t see.

Physical goals

For those of you that are my blog readers, you know the story already but for those of you, that are not. After I gave baseball and fully focused on playing rugby, going to school and drinking as much as I could, I became a very unhealthy person. Four years out of college, I stepped on the scale at 250+. I am making the observation that after training all of my life for athletics, I didn’t have any motivation to work out any more. Times have changed and I feel so much better now. Here are my next goals that inspire me every day to work out.

Complete a Marathon, my goal is to do the Rockaway Beach event in November. I still remember the conversation I had with my best friend that there was no way we could ever do a half.

Complete the Spartan race Trifecta in one year – it requires a sprint (3+miles), a super (8+) and a beast (12+) Finish top 100 in a Spartan sprint, I finished this year 2700 out of 7500, I have a long way to go I would like to attempt an Iron Man triathlon (I need crazy ridiculous goals to make me happy in life, this is one of them.) Especially since I have only rode a bike a handful of times in my life and I am not very good at it and also, the swimming part? I don’t swim, I sink. I am sure sharks would find me quite tasty. Cross fit competition Write an article to Men’s Health Management – I want to share my story about my weight loss, appear on cover My dream body is to be 185 lbs with 10-12% body fat. Play a Professional Kronum game

Travel to destinations

I have been up and down the East Coast; even so I haven’t been to everything that I want to see. I would like to go to Myrtle Beach, OBX, and actually enjoy Florida instead of playing baseball the whole time. You may laugh at this but I have only been as far west as Cleveland, OH. Needless to say, I have quite a few places I need to explore in my own country! Disney World is at the top of my list. I am still completely jealous over the fact that my brother went when he was seven years old even though all he did was ride around in tea cups the whole time. We were supposed to go on this trip two years ago but it never happened. New Hampshire with the Maxims – I have been invited twice but was unable to go due to money and the fact that my girlfriend at the time started school Cross Country Trip in an RV visiting baseball stadiums with my best friends Dennis, Fulton, Myers, Zoltowski, Lihotz, and I would like to include my crazy brothers in this trip as well. The more, the merrier so if you want in, let me know. I am going to start planning this bad ass trip soon Cruise with a girlfriend with the Maxims before they have a baby- This has to happen soon. I don’t know what I am going to do without my crazy drinking best friends of a couple when they have a baby, I am certain my life is going to change as well. Fill up my passport, wherever and whenever I would like to take my grandmother to Poland one last time. That lady is getting old and I am not sure if I can handle a certain amount hours with her on the plane but I do want to see her family as well as where she grew up. She talks about her slave labor on the farm all of the time and how we have it easy here. Sky diving – I had dreams since I was six about flying around in my own house, enough said Give a best man speech – I have always wanted to give a speech worthy of tears and laughter at the same time. It would be a privilege to do this for someone.

Financial goals

Be debt free, I know that living in your early twenties and thirties leads to this being very hard to accomplish but I am getting tired of owning money to companies. It would be nice to be financially independent and I am looking forward to those days. I know this is a long string and I am only added to the complexity of it by creating more debt (i.e. house, MBA, second home) Buy a house – (something is both motivating and disturbing to me, I love my uncle’s house – sad thing is most of his kids were old by the time they brought it and I feel they never got the chance to enjoy it. My parent’s house is what scares me, they always seem to have problems, and they always trying to fix it. Buy a beach house

Development goals

I always wanted to send a casting video to Real World (since I was about 17) or the Bachelor, again accomplishing the role of being the first disabled individual on the shows and give me the opportunity to give society a different perspective on the disabled individual. Often times, people are shocked when they first meet me, (Wait, you can talk normally?) I want to get the courage to go to an open mic night and throw a 15 minutes comedic session. I have been working on jokes in the past couple of years and I think my life is pretty funny.

Family Goals

Get Married – I would love to share my life with someone. Call me old school. Kids- This is an extremely touchy subject for me. I know that I am hearing impaired and I know that there is a great chances of my own kids having my disability. But trust me; I don’t want them to have it. I want boys but I know there is a greater chance of them being hearing impaired then having girls. If I have a girl, I will be extremely overprotective and I wouldn’t want to do that to somebody, ha-ha. I want to help my parents by giving them the vacation of their dreams, get them out of their rut, and help them pay their debts off including the ridiculous mortgage they have. I am a little selfish when it comes to this but I don’t want my younger brother Nicholas to go to the marines to be a sniper – something he has talked about since he was in kindergarten. I want him to go to a great college and to have a blast while not worrying about money to spend on stuff that he needs.

Charitable goals

Start up a school, (there are a lot of things that could be improved or changed and I hate especially since I have so many teacher friends that are so miserable when it comes to debates about our education system. I feel I know more about your pain than the average population which seems to do the most complaining because of taxes. “We can change whatever we want out of our education but until we change the accountability of parents to make their kids learn, we will never be better.” Start a non-profit foundation/mentoring program to help disabled kids who are want to be put in regular education and want to make something of themselves.

In conclusion, I hope you found this article motivating and that you want to draw up your own special blueprint for the next ten years. I hope to see you in ten years with everything on here crossed off in red ink because I accomplished them. This list is not set in stone and is not meant to be. I want this list to grow and you have any suggestions that I should add something, please let me know.

Please email your list if you do so at Bryaneadamson@gmail.com